So now the story is about a recovering caregiver and what to do with one's life post care-giving.
The birthday party went off without a hitch or if there was one, I didn't notice. Sister-in-law Sue and I greeted friends and relatives at my son's beautiful home. My daughter-in-law Karen had done a great job of arranging for some great barbecue and a gorgeous birthday cake. It could only have been better if Ken had been there and I think he was in spirit. My daughters and granddaughter came from Conroe and friends and family came from all over. My crazy Artist Way sisters came with pink pussy hats, of course. I felt honored and celebrated beyond my wildest dreams. But oh so tired!
Before the party I went back to Watercrest to make new plans. By now I had an idea of what I could afford and needed a one bedroom apartment. I located a large one on the top floor with a view and a storage room right down the hall and parking nearby. Then it was back to Houston with my in-laws. We had hoped to get a tour in of Watercrest in San Antonio before I left but no one was available to do it. Back in Houston I fell into bed and slept for a couple of days. Marylynne of Comfort Moves came back to meet with me and go over the new floor plan. It was clear there would be more downsizing! It was all so overwhelming! Hard to know where to begin.
As my daughter and I went through Ken's papers we discovered that somehow he had saved all the right stuff, the important papers. Amazing that he condensed them into one box but he did. Then it was clearing out more stuff. The hardest was Ken's closet. I still miss his smell. I hated letting go of most of his clothes but at our son's request, saved a few favorites for him. Out went some furniture, some went on the truck to go to the condo in Austin where my granddaughter will live while at UT, the rest to Watercrest at the Dominion, 10 minutes from my son's house. I left Comfort Moves in charge and left for San Antonio. The movers came on the 29th of March, the unpackers the following days and I finally slept in my own bed in my new place on the 31rst of March.