Tuesday, March 3, 2015
New docs, new questions
Our appointment with the new geriatric team at Baylor went well. We were interviewed individually and then together. We have increased his Exelon medication to every day and it is my challenge to remember to change the patch. Both the doc and I are concerned that he spends too much time in front of the TV and cutting up newspapers and that he needs to be challenged more. He has to be bored. There doesn't seem to be anything here at Brookdale that is a fit for him so I am going to tour The Amazing Place, a day care for those with dementia, tomorrow. It has good reviews and is nearby but kinda expensive...$700 a month for two days a week but an all day program including lunch. I would have two whole days to myself but it is only open Monday through Friday and much of what I want to do is on weekends...poetry gatherings, art openings...but I'm willing to give it a try if he is. I will check it out first and then if I think it might work for him, take him for a tour later.
Yesterday He-Who slept 14 hours straight...that can't be good for him so I'm keeping my fingers crossed that The Amazing Place will be amazing.
The doc questioned our decision to come to this Brookdale facility which has no continuing care and of course, I immediately began to question it, too. Am I in denial about the progression of his illness? Is he farther along that I realize? Should we have looked at more facilities? Should we have gone to San Antonio near our son? I am narrowing my criteria now for the next move and I feel sure there will be one: continuing care, a washer and dryer in the apartment, a door that opens to the outdoors, and adequate staff on the weekends. Surprisingly the square footage is not an issue for me...letting go of all the stuff and the big house really doesn't matter. I miss the yard and our friends and church...the stuff was just that: stuff.
Friday he had a wonderful visit from a NASA buddy...the first of any of his friends to come and visit..and it did him a world of good. The friend brought a DVD of an interview of He-Who about his role in getting the astronauts back to earth on Apollo 13 which was loaded into my computer so we can watch it anytime. He-Who loved the visit and having someone to talk "space" with him. He is bound to be bored around here and it is great to see him pull up that long term memory and talk about his work in the space program. Another friend in California with whom he had collaborated with as an editor for several books on the future of space wrote the most beautiful dedication to He-Who in his new soon-to-be published book.
I've had walking pneumonia but am much better after two weeks of antibiotics. I must take care of myself I know and I think I need to quit feeling guilty when I leave He-Who behind and go out even if it is to just run errands. Sunday afternoon I played Mexican Train dominoes and had so much fun I will go again.
It is in the 70s today but another freeze is scheduled in a couple of days. I am so glad we live in Houston and not Boston. I can't even imagine what that life is like with all that snow.